Parents have patterns. They consider their patterns valid and teach them to their children. The transfer is unconscious and gives a child the starting point for how their environment, relationships, and biology works. The key relationship exchange teaches the child the parent’s intention and what to expect from Care, Support, Safety, and Boundaries (CSSB).

Patterns are developmental. Children invented, discovered, or developed as we grow up. They operate to convert non-specific events that happen to us into specified understandable happenings, to make-sense of our world. For a newborn, everything that happens around them is an unspecified event. Once this conversion happens, we consider the information valid and act 'as if' it were true.