Since patterns repeat, they cannot be singular. A pattern is not the event but the determined response generated by the person who experiences it. This response creates problem solutions about the feelings from the event. The greater the emotional impact, the greater the stress, the lower the problem solving ability, the higher the non-specific for the individual, and the more limited response.

In the moment, whatever is determined, becomes the basis for a pattern. Once set, behavioral tentacles reach to create variations on the theme. The original decision is not reexamined.

This process is strengthened when a decision becomes delayed and the stress remains over time (PTSD for example). Under maximum stress, the first minimal working decision becomes the basis for action. This is how fight, flight, or freeze works.

Child A plays in the corner. Child B takes their toy away. As instructed, A tells an adult. The adult ignores or minimizes the request for help. A goes to B and forcefully takes the toy away. B cries. The adult comes and punishes A. In the telling of this story, A describes the confusion and frustration of the situation.

The question for A: How do I get what I want when others have the power to take it. And if I assert myself, my wants, I am punished for it. Solution: Never trust others. Do for myself secretly.

The connection: Live life as if others can take from you and you are helpless to stop it. Further, there is no protection from authorities. Remain isolated. Stay alone. Become manipulative and sneaky. Avoid questioning by appearing ignorant. Suffer stress of questioning about your actions, reveal little about them, and feel powerful when you escape without answering directly. Never lead, assert, or trust.

A simple event produces a decision that connects all life’s behavior.